Soul Meets Personality: The Humbled Path of Remembering Who We Are
Author: Bianca Moeschinger
May 2025
I am truly humbled by the work I do and the people I walk beside on their journey of self-discovery. What continues to strike me—deeply and profoundly—is just how extraordinary it is to witness a person begin to unravel, soften, and remember.
Most of us live the majority of our lives in a dualistic reality—and I’m not speaking about masculine and feminine, or left and right. I’m speaking about the relationship between the personality and the soul.
The personality—who we are by name, identity, and crafted ego—is usually the one at the helm. It's the part that speaks for us, makes decisions, takes up roles, seeks validation, keeps things safe. And yet, underneath that personality is something much vaster, quieter, and infinitely more expansive.
The soul.
What would happen if our personality weren’t in charge? Could the soul actually land, inhabit, and lead?
This is the essence of the work I do: supporting the actualisation of self through the journey of realisation and, eventually, ascension—not in a religious sense where a doctrine tells you how to live, nor in an esoteric sense where it feels imagined or unreachable, but as a grounded return to wholeness. To me, grounded means something you can feel, witness, and live inside your body. In psychosomatic terms, ascension is the moment the soul actually integrates into the body—when lived experience, nervous system regulation, and soul awareness begin to move as one. These are words that once felt abstract to me—something I longed to achieve but hadn’t yet embodied. Now, they live in my hands, in my sessions, in my breath.
Before we can even recognise that we are a soul, let alone feel it, we often have to move through layers of conditioning. We have to dissolve what we were taught to believe about ourselves. We have to face the tight knots of protection and survival we’ve wrapped around our truth. We have to question the structures that told us we are only our pain, our performance, or our productivity.
Ironically, even though many of us can sense each other’s soul essence—we can feel it in a room, in a conversation—we still get caught in the stickiness of identity, ego, and projection. We forget. We fight for our masks. We defend the very things that keep us separate.
And yet, we are not separate. We are souls having a human experience. We are light wrapped in skin. We are vessels of possibility, navigating a landscape of memory, emotion, and choice.
The unraveling of a person on the path of truth is nothing short of sacred. For some, it happens in a moment. For others, it’s a long, spiraling path of resistance and surrender. It’s not linear. It’s not logical. It’s divine timing.
Some get it quickly. They land in their truth without much pain. Others need to feel it through every layer of discomfort first. And both are perfect. Both are paths of devotion.
If I wasn’t immersed in this work, perhaps I too would doubt its reality. But I know what lives in my hands. I know what I’ve witnessed. And I know that what we hold is real.
Yes—you can find your connection. Yes—you can remember your peace, your truth, your flow. Wherever you are on your journey—it is possible.
The one thing that will shut down this possibility—internally and externally—is judgment. When we judge ourselves, the nervous system constricts. The breath shortens, the chest tightens, the digestive system stalls. Energetically, we withdraw. Psychosomatically, judgment sends a signal of rejection to the body—it tells the system that we are not safe within ourselves. And when safety disappears, so does flow. What once pulsed through us with aliveness begins to collapse inward, and the body's natural rhythm of expansion is paused. This is why even subtle judgment can block profound transformation.
As soon as you judge yourself, the flow within you collapses. Like a child who feels unseen. Like a dog whose joy is silenced. The energy pulls back, retreats, hides.
And when we judge others, we do the same. We create separation. We assume superiority without knowing context. And we disconnect ourselves from the very humanity we’re trying to understand.
We’re living in a world where people are so deeply disconnected from themselves that they act from pain—take, destroy, manipulate—not because they are evil, but because they are empty. It's like a starving person stealing food—they’re not thinking about morality, they’re thinking about survival. The same can be said for emotional hunger. When the soul is not being fed, when presence is absent, people grasp. They act out of desperation rather than alignment, seeking outside what they’ve forgotten lives within. Because they have forgotten how to feel.
The hunger for sex, money, and gratification has replaced something very simple: inner nourishment. And when we no longer know how to feel it from within, we search wildly for it outside.
But if life were simply about waking up to sunlight, tasting fruit, breathing in fresh air, moving our bodies, and resting… wouldn’t that be enough?
Maybe that is the real truth. That peace is simple. That joy is quiet. That the soul doesn’t need more stimulation to come alive—it needs less.
But we’ve created a world that is over-stimulating and under-sensitised. We’re constantly switched on. Addicted to doing. Numb to being. And in the noise, we lose track of our source.
So this is a call back to soul. To the remembering that who you really are isn’t your title, your trauma, your to-do list, or your curated personality.
You are something much greater.
You always have been.
And the moment you stop judging yourself and begin listening instead—
The soul returns.
And the dance begins again.
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